Comments on: Deep thoughts for Post 600

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:35:12 +0000

Terrific post. You are an amazing mom.

I have seen the angry adoptees online too and I certainly feel for them. For what it’s worth, I have a number of friends in real life who were adopted and they are well-adjusted people. All of them, including domestic and int’l adoptees, have no interest in their biological families. In fact, adoption rarely comes up; I’m guessing it’s taken for what it is and they have moved on with their lives end of story.

By: KLTTX

KLTTX — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:13:36 +0000

Great post.

By: Clare

Clare — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 07:36:00 +0000

Great post… Thank you for sharing it. I am drawn to hearing the various voices in the middle of the adoption discussions. A cushion against some of the more extreme voices. thank you for speaking your truth so clearly and calmly. Best wishes.

By: Quiet Dreams

Quiet Dreams — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 20:12:52 +0000

Amazing, wise post.

By: Cricket

Cricket — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:34:33 +0000

I hope you don’t mind, but I found your blog via one of my Google Reader searches.

I’m an adult adoptee, in reunion with my natural family since July of 2008. I know that it’s really difficult for AP’s and PAP’s to truly understand what it means to be an adoptee…just as it’s difficult for adoptees and natural moms/parents to understand what it’s like to be an AP. I’m learning how to navigate the internet in a peaceful tone, rather than accusatory…I’m a definite work in progress in that aspect.

I truly appreciated the gentle tone of your post..and hope that you’ll visit my blog and know that my story is written to help, not scare AP’s, or anyone else.

With peace,
Cricket

By: Christy

Christy — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:23:52 +0000

Beautiful post! You’ve said so many of the things that have been floating around my own head, only you’ve said it so much better than I ever could. Thanks for sharing!

By: Miss K

Miss K — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:25:52 +0000

Wonderful post.

By: Sue

Sue — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:41:25 +0000

Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. My husband is adopted and although he has some issues with his adoptive parents, he has no idea what issues he would have with his biological parents – and I’m not so sure he wants to find out at this point. Furthermore, his sister, who is the biological child of their parents, always thought her parents favored their adopted son over her. I like reading the blogs of parents who adopt because it helps me understand how very much loved and wanted my husband must have been when his parents adopted him. Things get a little more complicated after that, but that’s the way it is with all families. I was raised by my biological parents and things aren’t perfect in our family either. Family is about the relationships we form with one another and the love we share, not about biology.

By: Malloryn

Malloryn — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:14:52 +0000

This is a great post, and perfect for #600 (wow!). Would you mind sharing a link to the adoptive parent’s blog that you referenced above?

I think you have an excellent approach to this, and I agree that it’s important to look at views from all members of the adoption triad. No doubt there will be challenges ahead, but I think that you and Mr. Badger will be able to help V with any questions that he has.

By: JJ

JJ — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 02:51:33 +0000

Happy 600!

The fact that you are so aware of a lot of different aspects of adoption and how it will (and has) affect you and Mr Badger and V–that in itself is so incredibly important–and you know I already think you all are awesome parents, and V will no doubt know how much he is loved.